'Marriage Is for White People' (huh???)

[brianold]

wow... very interesting topic. so is marriage going extinct? is it worth it to women to get married? why? why not?

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'Marriage Is for White People'

By Joy Jones
Sunday, March 26, 2006; Page B01

Quote:I grew up in a time when two-parent families were still the norm, in both black and white America. Then, as an adult, I saw divorce become more commonplace, then almost a rite of passage. Today it would appear that many -- particularly in the black community -- have dispensed with marriage altogether.

But as a black woman, I have witnessed the outrage of girlfriends when the ex failed to show up for his weekend with the kids, and I've seen the disappointment of children who missed having a dad around. Having enjoyed a close relationship with my own father, I made a conscious decision that I wanted a husband, not a live-in boyfriend and not a "baby's daddy," when it came my time to mate and marry.

My time never came.

[brianold]

has anyone seen this story?

Husband on Strike

[yancdawg]

Us colored folks are messin up listenin to all that rap music and talkin all this jigity jive and doing the "gangsta" lean. Thats why colored folks aint gettin married. We aint got our priorities strait.

Whatever happened to integrity and character?? Now its all about "reppin these streets faithfully" as geezy so eloquently put it, and gettin money the nigga way. Its a mess

[brianold]

yancdawg Wrote:Us colored folks are messin up listenin to all that rap music and talkin all this jigity jive and doing the "gangsta" lean. Thats why colored folks aint gettin married. We aint got our priorities strait.

Whatever happened to integrity and character?? Now its all about "reppin these streets faithfully" as geezy so eloquently put it, and gettin money the nigga way. Its a mess

you peep how she contrasted men's "ready period" with women's?

men in their 20's = not ready.
women in their 20's = looking hard for a husband.

men in their 40's = ready.
women in their 40's = already got mines... i don't need man.

that seems like an issue that is there regardless. is that even something that we can change. it almost seems biological...

[Shelley]

Interesting article. I think the 'sanctity' of marriage seems to not be relavent anymore, but then the question really is "Why do we marry?" Religious beliefs, being 'in love', for practical reasons..etc

I don't know about the 'husband on strike'....he could have kept that to himself.

[brianold]

Quote:"Why do we marry?" Religious beliefs, being 'in love', for practical reasons..etc

why do you marry? or why would you?